You’re engaged! From all of us here at Rockbeare Manor, huge congratulations – you must be over the moon. From now until the big day it will be a whirlwind of excitement, planning, celebrations and fun, and as one of Devon’s most popular wedding venues, we hope to give you a steer in the right direction as to where to start on your journey to becoming a married couple.
Celebrate and share the news!
Once the question has been ‘popped’ you’ll no doubt be dying to tell your parents, friends and family. Visit those that you can, get on the phone, or arrange a Face Time chat, and spread the amazing news! Don’t be too quick to announce it on social media though – whilst it will seem tempting, it’s always best to make sure that you have told all of your nearest and dearest first, rather than them finding out about the up coming wedding on the grapevine!
This is also the perfect time to start giving some thought to who you may ask to be your Best Man, Ushers and Bridesmaids. Relish in the moment and take it all in (and enjoy drinking lots of celebration bubbly!!).
Perhaps you have been planning this day for years, and who knows, you may even have some Pinterest boards at the ready, but either way just enjoy the initial weeks and months of the engagement. It’s always nice to spend these moments with your partner; go out for long walks, chat ‘weddings’ over dinner somewhere special and explore each others ideas and vision for how the day might be. Nothing needs to be set in stone straight away so relax and have fun with it. A key subject to think about is the date and time of year for your wedding…do you see yourself having an romantic winter affair with open fires and candlelight, or would you prefer an outdoorsy wedding with Pimms, Prosecco and good food flowing? It’s going to be hard not to get carried away, dreaming big, and thinking about all the possible things that you could incorporate into the day (we’ve all done it!!) – and there is no harm in doing so in these early ‘daydreaming days’ – make the most of it, and enjoy!
Think about who you’d like to share your special day with
Dare we say it…. It’s one of the things that will be at the root of many a wedding planning discussion and does have the potential to trigger some debate, but your guest list is an important thing to consider all the same. The number of guests that you choose to share your wedding day with will having a bearing on many other things further down the line such as the venue (as you need to make sure that it is big enough!), what you choose for the wedding breakfast and what style of catering that you go for, and it will also affect overall costs too of course. Some key questions to ask yourselves at this stage…
1/ Are we inviting immediate family only, or extended family too?
2/ Will children be welcome to the wedding as well?
3/ Should we invite certain people to the evening reception only? (This is an easy way to reduce numbers for the main part of the wedding if needed)
4/ Are our parents expecting to invite some of their friends or relations?
The first guest list that you write will probably be as long as your arm, but it’s best to put everyone’s name on it and then, if necessary, you can whittle it down from there. If you are finding it hard to narrow the list down, think about the last time that you saw that person, and how important they are to you both. If them being there will make the wedding day more special for you, then their name should probably stay.
The million dollar question
How much is the wedding going to cost? Having a realistic budget is essential and so it’s definitely worth giving it some thought. Hopefully you will have some idea of whether or not parents or family members are contributing to your wedding day, and of course you must think about how much you are prepared to spend too. Opening a wedding savings account is a great way to put money aside each month. Most wedding suppliers will only ask for a small deposit on booking, and so you won’t ever be expected to pay for everything upfront . If you are worried that the financial commitment will put too much pressure on you both, perhaps think about planning the wedding a year or two ahead to give you more time to save.
Pick the venue!
So now you know roughly how many people are attending your wedding, you have an idea of potential month and year, and you have also given budget some thought – now it’s the fun part! Go out there and look for a potential venue for your big celebration. You can do a lot of the leg-work online and you are likely to get a feel for the venue just by browsing their website, as it should tell you all the key information that you are looking for, and give you a really good selection of gallery images to scroll though as well. There is no harm in requesting brochures from a wide variety of wedding venues. How responsive they are to your enquiry, and the quality of the brochure that they send through are all clues as to how they will look after you if you book their venue.
At Rockbeare Manor we think that we have something quite unique, and really very special. We’re dedicated to making sure that if you choose our venue for your wedding day, we’ll go the extra mile to make things as smooth as they can possibly be, so that when the day comes around you enjoy every minute! Our wedding venue in Devon is always exclusive use for you and your wedding guests, and as our beautiful Ballroom seats between 50 and 160 guests we can host either an intimate or large scale affair! Our grade I listed Regency Manor house is brimming with period features, it has unbelievably breathtaking views across the Devon countryside, beyond Exeter, up to Dartmoor and beyond. The setting is just perfect for weddings.
To book an appointment to see our lovely Devon wedding venue, please call us on 01392 797444 and we’d love to talk about everything weddings with you!
www.rockbearemanor.co.uk Rockbeare Manor, Near Exeter, Devon, EX5 2FE